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10 Ways to Become a More Confident Person (Infographic)

Do you hate speaking in public? Do you have problems expressing yourself when you are in a group discussion? Do you wish that you were born with more confidence? This infographic may be able to help.

Confidence. It’s probably something that we’re not born with. We drag ourselves through life without living up to our full potential, and we don’t have the nerve to live our lives to the fullest. We play it safe because the fear of failing – and being ridiculed for it – is too strong.

Rome wasn’t built in one day and the same goes for building confidence.

In this infographic by Vegas Extreme SkyDiving, you will find an inspiring list of 10 ways to become a more confident person, how to carry out these exercises and why they can be of great help to boost your self-confidence.

As a summary, this useful infographic highlights on:

  • The 3 biggest myths about self-confidence.
  • A day-to-day approach on building confidence.
  • How to build up your self-confidence at work, at parties and nights out, during vacations, and through physical exercises.

10 Ways To Become A More Confident Person

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Share this infographic if you think it’s worth sharing. We’re always curious what you expect to find here on the AphantasiaMind platform. We would like to receive your vision, suggestions or comments on this article (or on anything at all, be it more tests on aphantasia/hyperphantasia, good books/movie recommendations… etc.).

Why infographics?

With these clear and interesting infographics, we want to help our visitors with aphantasia to digest these information more easily. So that there’s less to read, but more to learn. :)

Want to motivate yourself to go on and on? Use the conscious compensation strategy

Being more easily affected by push factors doesn’t mean that pull factors are completely unable to influence us at all. What we need is something to ‘remind’ us to do it. A conscious compensation strategy for you to find a way to get around the lack of pull factors.

I go for pole gym classes at a studio, weekly. Each time after the one hour lesson, I feel so motivated to carry on. I can’t help to think that class is really fun and I am even willing train for the whole day despite how tired I may be. Sounds great, right? However, that’s probably just me being delusional. By the time when a week has passed after previous lesson, I don’t feel like going for the next class already. And here I am thinking: why do I lose interest in everything so fast?

Then when I drag myself over for class and train, I find it fun again, and I want more that I wouldn’t mind training for a whole day. And this (vicious) cycle goes on and on. And I’m so sick and tired of me being my lazy self:/

Sometimes, to figure out what’s best for yourself, you need to take a step back and reflect on what could be the reason of why you may be so lazy. There’s more to ‘personality’ than you think.

After knowing about aphantasia and through many reflections, I realized that it could be due to the fact that I’m unable to use my brain to ‘see’ how fun lesson will be. Whereas some people are able to visualize and imagine what they want to see, which motivates them effectively.

Yep, it’s aphantasia, bruh.

I’m not trying to use it as an excuse, but this can be one of the reasons to why I lose interest in everything so fast. I finally see how aphantasy is affecting me so much and I figured out how to compensate for my own blind spot: by watching pole dancing videos the day before to motivate myself to go back weekly.

And I must say, it works AMAZING.

This is basically called a conscious compensation strategy, whereby you find a way to get around the lack of “pull factor”. Be it picking up a new hobby, going for dance lessons, having a productive day at work or going to a party to meet interesting people…etc. If you think that you’ve lost interest in anything, watch a few videos about it and see if it spikes your interest again. The best thing about this simple compensation strategy is that it can apply to each and everyone of us, whether we are aphantasmic or not.

So when you go home and next time you don’t feel like going for class, you watch videos of others or yourself, and you will go, because something visual such as a video might trigger the feeling of “fun” that you had during class, which will bring you back to the place.

The best thing about this coping strategy? You can apply this to all aspects of life.

After knowing that my laziness and lack of motivation could be due to this instead of solely on ‘personality’, I definitely feel more willing to do stuff instead of procrastinating all the time.

If you would like to check out the Pole Studio I go to, it’s SLAP Dance Studio located at 155A/157A Telok Ayer Street, Singapore. My instructor is Jas and trust me, her classes are really, incredibly fun and enjoyable that I just can’t get enough. She’s a professional pole and exotic dancer and choreographer for over 8 years, was the founding member of Bobbi’s Pole Dance Studio Singapore, the world’s foremost Pole Dance studio from Australia and the creator of the annual Miss Pole Dance Australia competition. Not only that, Jas has also performed with independent dance companies and choreographers in Asia, and her performances include the inaugural Youth Olympics Games Opening 2010, the W!LD RICE annual fundraising gala 2009 and the Asian Pole Summit 2008. What more could you ask for from such an amazing instructor? She’s definitely one of the “pull factors” which motivates me to go back for more. :)

Think You’re Lazy? You May Have Aphantasia

Do others call you lazy? Are you sick and tired of always losing interest in everything so fast? You may have aphantasia.

Push and Pull Factors

Push factors are circumstances or conditions which motivates a person to do something, especially in one’s country, region, organization, religion, etc. An example can be a situation whereby one suffers discrimination at work and is desperate to change to a new work environment. That negative influence is a push factor.

On the other hand, pull factors can be the lure of something which is attractive. For example, the economy of another country, increase in income of another organization, or even something simple such as advertising, sales, discounts, promotional events and referral and loyalty-reward programs. Basically, the more compelling the pull factor, the more likely the recipient of the message will respond.

More often than not, people without aphantasia can be more easily influenced by pull factors and can be more easily motivated to do something. This is because they are able to ‘visualize’ and better ‘foresee’ the benefits of what is attractive and be ‘pulled’ to do something. Whereas certain people with aphantasia, such as me and some others who are unable to visualize no matter how hard we try, pull factors may only affect us for a limited amount of time and once our memory of it or the feeling it gives us is gone, we are no longer tempted by the initial pull factor.

Yes, people with aphantasia are more likely to be influenced by push factors because we lack effective pull factors that affects us.

That said, it does not mean that pull factors are completely unable to influence us at all. What we need is something to ‘remind’ us to do it. A conscious compensation strategy for you to find a way to get around the lack of pull factors.

My life without mental images

On the 31st of August, my boyfriend suddenly sent me a link from Wikipedia. It was a link about Aphantasia – it had 4 simple sentences in it – and 3 references.

“Aphantasia is a hypothesized neurological condition where a person does not possess a functioning mind’s eye. The term was first suggested in a 2015 study for a specific kind of visual agnosia. Further studies are being planned. The term was coined by the team led by Prof. Adam Zeman of the University of Exeter Medical School.

– Wikipedia

“Have you heard of this condition before?” He asks. Unsure of what condition it might be, I quickly googled and managed to come across a test (an abridged version of the Vividness of Visual Imagery Questionnaire used by psychologists) on BBC News which was developed by the University of Exeter.

Me: I think I have aphantasia.

Kelvin: Really??? Can you see my face now? In your mind, can you remember my face?

He seemed really anxious.

After closing my eyes, I tried to visualize his face in my mind. C’mon, you just saw him 6 hours ago and you see him every, single day.

I replied, “No.”

He was surprised. It turns out that two of his friends have this condition too and he didn’t even know that is exists. Well, neither do we, since we had always thought that everyone thinks the same way. And so I never find the need to explain to people that I do not think visually, that I’m unable to conjure a mental image of a person. It’s weird and hard to explain, because being unable to visualize hasn’t really affected me in any way that I know of. My memory doesn’t seem to be affected, and my facial recognition ability way surpasses my hyperaphantastic boyfriend.

“I know that it’s you when I see you, but I can’t visualize your face very accurately the moment you’re out of my sight. Can you?”

“Yes, I can. I can see your face in my mind, all the details.”

Researches like this is extremely irresistible to me. It coaxes me to think about ways to experience life that are radically different from my own, and it offers clues to how the mind works. Why does my boyfriend think so differently? Why doesn’t he feel how I feel? Why do some people love to read books?

“Can you count sheep when you’re trying to sleep?”

“No, I can’t count sheep. When I count sheep, I can only ‘count’. I don’t see any ‘sheep’ in my mind, and that’s why I’m wondering who even came up with that idea of counting sheep.”

“It’s a genetic condition.”

“You know what? I….can’t seem to visualize my mother’s face or my brother’s face either.”


“This could be a reason why I hate to read books, particularly fiction. Even when it comes to short paragraphs which are describing the look of the character or what he/she is wearing, I can never ‘see’ it. And I never understand why people always say, ‘Oh, the books are always better than the movie adaptation.’ I guess that explains.”

Despite this being something which I can relate to, I didn’t know about this condition until he asked me to try to recall how he looks like.

“Because Roland told me he just found out he has this problem. He thought that everyone is the same.”

That’s pretty true. I’ve always thought that the reason of why I hate to read is as simple as myself being born lazy. Turns out, I’m sort of ‘compromised’ on what books have to offer.

“Don’t forget me.” He quickly sent me a photo of himself.

“Doesn’t look like the mental image in my head.”


“Ok, you must keep photo of me with you, so you don’t walk away with the wrong guy.”

My test result:


He did the test as well and got the result of Hyperphantasia.


To be honest, I think that aphantasia could be more prominent in the Chinese race. Just like the genetic trait which, about half of all people of Asian descent share, causes a prompt reddening of the face in response to drinking alcohol. While the red-faced alcohol response can be annoying, it may also be beneficial to populations on the whole, as it appears to be associated with lower rates of alcoholism. In fact, the drug disulfiram, which is used to prevent relapse in recovering alcoholics, has some of the same biochemical effects as the flushing gene does when it is expressed. People with aphantasia may have, in fact, acquired other forms of compensation to their thought and memory processes which allows them to function normally.

“Is everything vivid to you?”

“Yes. I can imagine you in your exact form now sitting next to me.”

“Well, if I try to visualize that same image I see my legs tangled, somehow.”

“Now I am stroking your hair, and Seiji barking next to me.” Seiji is his dog.

“Ok, I can visualize actions but it’s hard for me to visualize faces. BUT I can hear Seiji bright and clear. In fact, I can imagine my mom’s voice very clearly.”

“Next question: when you read the text on messages, do you ‘hear’ the words?”

“Yes, I can visualize and remember voices and tones very well. Very, very clearly, almost as if that person is talking to me.”

“You have compensated talent, haha.”

Images aside, I realized that I’m way better at remembering names than him, perhaps because he remember names by imagining how the person looks like, whereas I remember their faces and associate their names with their faces.

“If I don’t consciously merge the name with the image of the face, I can’t remember their name. And that is not passive. Takes effort. And when I forget to do it, I will forget the person’s name.”

This could be a way of how my brain compensates with the lack of the ability to visualize in my mind, that’s why the moment I see someone, I know their names from my way of linking and association.

In my world, mental images don’t exist. But this has never affected me greatly. Other than the fact that I hate reading books.